MNO- mom's night out

This is a must for moms. And should be standard protocol that the dad should support and help institute. All moms need a break , even if they say they don't want one. If a mom tells you "no, I'm OK" what they are really saying is" Please , please I need this". Working moms and stay at home moms all need MNO. It does not even need to be at night. It can be at anytime for any amount of time. For me Id like 4-5 hours kid free, at least every few weeks. I have a little one and I don't mind getting out with him. Its nice to spend time one on one with a new baby. But I'm very happy to get out with out all the kids.

Quality time away from home should be spent doing what the mom likes, example's include : going to a gym, club, classes of some sort(me I like scrap booking) nail or hair care(who doesn't like a manicure once in a while) then there's the Other Moms clubs where moms go out and talk , drink and eat chocolate, or see a movie the hubby(or significant other) would never go to.

So when you see your wife or girl friend give her what she needs to be the best mom she can be, let her not be a mom a for a few hours every once in a while. Also surprising her with some sort of gift once in a while with no strings attached is great. Roses are nice.

To Buy or Not to Buy.....Do I Really Need It

When I became one of many that lost there home to foreclosure , I started to think differently. I spent a lot of time and money making that house the way Id like to see it. It was always a work in progress. I bought nice furniture and nick-knacks. Well when you have a lot of stuff and a long road trip with a limiting funds you have to pick and choose things that mean the most. I left behind a leather sectional that I loved. Because we just could not get it to fit in the truck. I also left behind , donated and gave other things away including a deep freeze full of food we just never got to eat before we moved. All that being said, when ever I see something I like and I want to buy it on an impulse buy. I now stop and think. Am I just gonna throw that away in the next move. Is that Item gonna get used. How will my kids treat it, are they gonna break it. If its a kids toy/ book will they enjoy it or toss it to the side. How long before I get mad at that Item for having to put it away several times a day or stepping on it , in the middle of the night. And don't even get me started on kids clothes. My kids have enough cloths to furnish a re-sale shop. But I can guarantee that I got 80% of them on a clearance rack at a huge fraction of the cost.
I cant justify getting something anymore for the fun of it. This experience has taken the thrill I used to get from shopping. The thrill I get now is a game I play. How cheap can I get my grocery bills. And how long can I wait till an item goes on clearance before I get it for 1$-2$. I almost leave a store on a high from the well thought out shopping plan I made and how much I saved.
My best example so far was a coupon for 1.50$ of a certain brand salad dressing . That was on sale for 1.58$. Which I ended up getting for an awesome .08 cent. I wont buy now unless I can honestly say it was worth it. and that .08 cent salad dressing was totally worth it.

As a Stay at Home Mom

So Ive been out of work sense I was 35 weeks pregnant with Owen. Which was the mid of January. I love staying home and doing the ' house wife ' thing. But I feel something is missing. Most of the day I clean and sense my kids are all young they are all messy. I vacuum several times a day and I like cleaning windows and this new house is way cleaner the my old one in San Diego and I contribute that to ' I have loads of time ' . But at the same time I get bored. I cant have the kind of conversation I do with and adult as I do with kids. So I miss that. But I also miss being able to make friends money at a place of work. Almost all the friends I ever had came from school or work. And not working I don't have that chance. Its hard to find meaningful friends on the World Wide Web. They all think you are nuts, or a pedophile just trying to go after there kids. Id just like to have a few local friends that hang out and do things like BBQ, Moms night out and Kids play dates. Or just come over to shoot the breeze. I miss my friends back in San Diego but I don't regret starting over.

So what else is there to do. Some say get a hobby, but then the kids in to the supplies and make a mess. So I don't know what to do. I'm a busy body and I fell as though I'm wasting time.